It is still a mystery to me that in this life, that timing is such a critical aspect as to where the path does lead in all of its certainty. I apologize in advance because it is due to the timing of my actions that I must spin the cogs of my mind off of the path in which my heart does lead.
“Love which falls to you and is spun as the thread of your destiny; for what could you be better suited for”
How often do we love only that which falls to us? It is far more in line with human nature that we love that which falls to others. Our strengths, our weaknesses, how we were raised, are all spun for us.
But sometimes we don’t appreciate what was spun for us—so much so that we may find the very notion of certain opportunities being meant for us as repulsive and offensive. It’s rare to see someone react to suffering with contented acknowledgment. The beauty behind all of this is that if something were meant for us, we don’t have to be broken by it. We are not less because something just is. We must simply play our part and continue doing so faithfully.
From this, comes the question, how do we continue forward with faith and joy despite the ideal situation not coming into being? By understanding that timing and luck are the two forces that dominate this life. The sooner we understand this the saner we become.
It was Epicetus who said that one should pursue the good ardently. But if your efforts fall short, accept the results and move on.
The kicker that signifies the depth of this quote, at least in my opinion, is that we must accept, and even expect that not all things will work out. It is very much a possibility that the effort we put forth will not materialize the results we anticipated to reap. But the lesson to be learned here is that you can be your best and still fail. It is the only way that the ability to rejoice will ever come to fruition in this life. It is when we begin to understand that so much of this life is out of our control, that our arrogant state of mind is freed from us when things do in fact go right. It also helps to disembowel ourselves from self-deprecation when the results go in the opposite direction of where we hoped they would.
With having this arranged squarely in our mind, the question then becomes: in all things, am I pursuing my utmost good, and the utmost good in others? The former, of course, shall imply the latter. It is in good graces that I believe that in the work we do, the relationships we fall into, virtually everything that matters at the end of the day, is what matters most is the pursuit of happiness—and in no way does the quality of the circumstance hold a candle to the pursuit. It is said that a poet’s function is not to share the experience of his poetic state that is very much a private affair. Yet it is his function to create that poetic state in others.
Is what I believe to be important, is to understand what function you have been assigned, and how will you pivot your luck to perform it well?
At the end of the day, life boils down to two things, timing and luck. This is in no way meant to lead to moping and idleness. This fact alone leads to freedom, freedom from thinking that something is wrong with us, or from taking drastic action to change something that is distracting us from being our most genuine self. When we understand that life is luck and timing impeccable, we are granted the freedom from thinking that every unfortunate event or undesired result is on us, or at the very least, it affords the wisdom to see the significance of knowing the difference.
In order for us to flourish as individuals, we must assert control over our minds. We are one hundred percent responsible for our thoughts and for the actions that follow. We are responsible for responding to the negligent circumstances in a way that the results of our best possible self can grow with a diligent manner. There is not a thing out there that can rob us of our will.
Luck and timing are the two forces that often infect our everyday demeanor with disapproval, but they are the precise forces that should strip us of entitlement and release us from comparison. It is only due to human nature that we often compare ourselves to someone whose path was designed with uniqueness for them, and also find ourselves jealous of their attributes that were completely out of their own control. Then our thoughts turn to envy because we think in our own minds that we are less because we do not have something that was never meant for us. The only way to seek and to achieve peace of mind is to react to “want” in one of two ways. Either it wasn’t meant for me or it wasn’t meant for me yet.
Our lot in life does not make us less, and to visit the prior on the flip side, their lot in life does not make them less or more. You see you could’ve had theirs just as much as they could’ve had yours. It is amazing how radical of a difference our perception would be if we all thought this way. To be conscious and aware of the role that timing and luck have played into who and where we are at any given point in our lives is instrumental to achieving your dreams.
Opportunity is everything, and we are products of the paths we choose. The right phone call at the right time, the right coach who offered the perfect words of encouragement, the right event where you meet someone who opens the door to everything. These little things are all responsible for the big things. If we’re honest, it’s harder to say, “You know what, I’ve been blessed to have some amazing opportunities and to have people along the way that encouraged me to be the best version of myself,” than it is to exaggerate your own sheer grit because it sounds like a better story.
The best story is the authentic one. This is true every step of the way. The authentic narrative allows others to frame their own experiences with more acuteness. The most talented individual will amount to nothing without opportunities missed and opportunities seized. Any instinct to refute this is an example of luck at work—you were given an understanding that led you to believe that if you put your mind to it, anything is in the realm of possibility. It is imperative to isolate that experience, think of the setting, who was involved, and what led you there. That’s where the authenticated opportunistic truth will begin to show itself.
All opportunity is, is the ability to transcend our misfortunes. But if we ignore that the stipulation of opportunity is indeed timing and luck, we fall into a state of denial. After all, anything can happen to anyone. And from here we must exploit ourselves for the best possible purposes. Exploit yourself in such a way, that you and all that surround you are made better by it. Utilize your story and love whatever luck and timing have given to you.
It is of the utmost importance to your self, that you seek nothing other than what has been assigned, and recognizing with wholeness the gift that is your uniqueness. While your placement might have been random, it wasn’t wrong.
In closing, I leave you with another quote by Epicetus.
“You are not an isolated entity, but a unique, irreplaceable part of the Cosmos. Don’t ever forget this. You are an essential piece to the puzzle of humanity.”
Until the next time.